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Building Confidence in Your Child

Building Confidence in Your Child


Building Confidence in Your Child


A person’s childhood is strongly influenced by their level of confidence. It is a characteristic that can be volatile among children, but it can be developed at any point in their lives. It is widely believed that it is simpler to help your child develop confidence than to repair damage caused by poor self-confidence later in life.

Children aren’t born with confidence. Their experiences, which include your parenting and the kind of environment you create for them, have a powerful influence on their emotional development. These highlight your important role in shaping your child’s level of confidence and the need to invest in their emotional development.

How can you help build confidence in your child? What kind of investment must you make to support their proper emotional development?


The Confidence and Self-Esteem Link

A healthy dose of self-confidence is important for your child to have a fair chance of succeeding in life. Self-confidence is defined as “the belief in oneself and abilities … it describes an internal state made up of what we think and feel about ourselves.” Because confidence is influenced by personal experiences, it is normal for it to change. This means that your child may feel confident in certain circumstances and less confident in others.

Confidence and self-esteem have subtle differences, but are closely related, and many people tend to use the terms interchangeably. Basically, self-confidence refers to how a person feels about themselves and their abilities. According to Skills You Need, “Confidence is … a state of mind … Confidence comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (self-esteem) and belief in your own ability, skills and experience.” On the other hand, self-esteem refers to one’s sense of self-worth and self-appreciation. In simple terms, self-esteem can determine your child’s level of self-confidence.

Both should not be underestimated. Many behavior issues among children can be traced to poor self-esteem and low self-confidence. While you may not want your child to overvalue physical appearance and materialism, they need to like themselves in order to have enough confidence to meet the challenges of life head-on.


The Self-Esteem and Life Quality Link

Self-esteem can influence your child’s ability to be contented with themselves and what they have. It can give them the confidence to accept who they are and to embark on novel experiences without fear and with openness. It can make them feel loved and appreciated. It can give them the courage to venture into new things and the humility and graciousness to accept mistakes and failures.

Conversely, having a poor level of self-esteem can mean poor self-confidence. According to Kathy Hardie-Williams, expert contributor to Good Therapy, “Self-esteem is the foundation for how we are in the world.” She also said that it “is the most under-acknowledged component of mental health.” Thus, low self-esteem can go beyond poor self-confidence to breed emotional conditions and challenges like anxiety, depression, isolation, etc.

If your child has low self-esteem and low confidence, they may perceive the world as a scary, hostile place. That can make them reluctant to actively take part in it or to assert themselves, and they can miss out on wonderful opportunities and experiences, ruining their chance to realize their dreams or to succeed in the field of their passion. An unfulfilling life packed with disappointments can further damage whatever vestiges of self-esteem and confidence they have, leading to more failures.


Parenting: Shaping Self-Esteem and Confidence

It is a fact that you can’t fix everything in your child’s life or buffer them from every hardship. This is the very reason why you must instill self-esteem and confidence in your child. Praise, support, and encouragement are important. As a parent, you are in a position to challenge your child’s perceptions and thinking, which could be influencing their self-esteem and confidence. Use your influences well.

You have the authority to promote healthy levels of self-esteem and confidence by helping them set reasonable goals. For instance, you should not do their homework, but you can guide them through the steps to complete a task successfully. You need not pick up every mess they make, but you can give them storage baskets and bins and show them how to clean up after playtime.

Remember, your child’s self-esteem and confidence have deep roots in their early experiences. This underscores the important role of parenting in their development. Providing for their physical and material needs is important. Ensuring that they have a safe and nurturing environment that fosters healthy living and development is crucial. Equally important is investing in their emotional growth to help them develop a healthy level of self-esteem and confidence.


On the Way to Building Positive Self-Esteem

If building your child’s self-esteem and confidence seems too overwhelming for you, relax—even “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” It is said that “It takes a village to raise a child.” Maybe you don’t need a village—you just need an expert in child counseling. In these days of twenty-first-century challenges, a little help from a therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Pittsboro, NC, can go a long, long way.

With all the parenting options at your disposal, it is easy to be confused when it comes to investing in your child’s emotional development. A counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Pittsboro, NC, can be the right partner to join hands with when it comes to building your child’s self-esteem and confidence. They can also assist you to be an empowered parent who is ready to protect your child while encouraging them to make choices, make friends, venture out on their own, and take risks to live life to the fullest.


Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Pittsboro, NC

Counties: Chatham, Alamance, Durham, Harnett, Lee, Moore, Orange, Randolph, Wake, NC
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Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 9+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families. PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, Family, couples and marriage counseling.
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