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Like a Second Home | Your Child’s Behavior Issues in School

Child Counseling, Pittsboro NC

Like a Second Home | Your Child’s Behavior Issues in School


Does your child refuse to get out of bed, incessantly crying and pleading not to go to school? After attending school, does your child look visibly upset, but refuses to speak about what may have happened?  In the wake of such behavior, do you dread receiving notice from your child’s teacher asking you to come in for a conference to discuss that your child has crossed the line? Or unbeknownst to you, your child has been missing school, and you only discover this from their declining grades.

Having a child with behavioral issues in school can be confusing, frustrating and overwhelming. You may even feel guilty and worried that, as a parent, you are doing something wrong. Each day can feel like a struggle and you may be wondering when the challenging behavior will ever end. You may also speculate if your child will grow into a happy, healthy and responsible adult. Between worrying about the immediate and long-term effects of your child’s behavioral in school, you may feel defeated and pushed to your wits end.


Identifying the Cause of Your Child’s Behavioral Issues in School

Children can display a wide range of behavioral issues in school, from not listening to the teacher to disruptive talking and aggressive conduct on the playground. In your child’s case, he or she may throw tantrums, talk back, be disrespectful, refuse to attend school or participate in activities. The reasons for children’s misbehavior can be expected, and it does not mean that your child is wayward. As you question yourself if these behaviors are part of a phase, know that some behavioral problems are more than just the usual growing pains. Some are indicative of deeper, underlying issues, which parents like you may not have all the tools needed to gain a full understanding.

There is no definitive cause that can be attributed to a child’s behavioral concerns in school, but there is usually a reason behind the misbehavior. Emotional changes, genetics, overall temperament, learning difficulties, parenting factors and lifestyle play a pivotal role in determining the root cause of behavior issues.

For example, your child’s disruptive behavior may be caused by certain life changes, such as divorce, relocation, or the death of a loved one. Or your child’s behavioral struggle may be an emotional or behavioral health issue commonly faced by American school-aged children. The Child Mind Institute published the 2016 Children’s Mental Health Report that one in five children has a behavioral health or learning disorder, and 80 percent of chronic emotional disorders start in childhood.

Another factor that may contribute to your child’s misconduct in school could be lifestyle, especially if there is no organized family system at home. The lack of discipline at home may be manifested at school, resulting in your child treating the academic setting like a second home to display negative behaviors, such as bullying, disobeying rules and disrespecting authority.


The Message behind Your Child’s Misbehavior

Actions are a form of communicating how one feels and thinks. An infant may cry when hungry or wet, while an adult may yawn due to tiredness or boredom. Precisely because of their young age, children sometimes lack the social or language skills to describe their feelings or difficulties in challenging situations. Instead, they act out their feeling or need for attention, or to stop certain activities they dislike.

If your child is exhibiting disruptive behavior in school too often, it may be an indication that something is out of kilter or their needs are not being appropriately addressed. Your child may be sad, scared, hurt, or angry, but does not know how to properly communicate to let you know about how they feel.

While many children eventually overcome their difficulties, there are some who may need extra support and understanding from their families and teachers to be able to rise to the challenge. In the meantime, resorting to bad behaviors may be your child’s way of sending a very loud message.


The Challenges of Behavioral Problems in School

The challenging behavior of your child in school greatly interferes with their learning, development, and socialization. It does not only pose a danger to your child, but to other children and adults, as well. It puts your child at a higher risk for future social issues and possibly academic failure.

Behavioral problems in school are challenging because they can be threatening, offensive, and confrontational. For the child, the behavior puts him or her in jeopardy by preventing them from learning what is needed to succeed. A child with a behavioral issue is often rejected, disliked, ridiculed, and unwelcomed. Such treatment can wound the child’s self-esteem, and lead to depression. It can deprive them of opportunities to fully develop positive and healthy social skills.

Equally important is how behavioral issues in school can be a challenge to the parents, family, teachers, school authorities, and peers. It can be difficult knowing how to improve the situation, how to help your child learn acceptable behavior, how to help them avoid other risks, and to help them feel good about themselves, which children deserve.


Rising to the Challenge

Parenting can indeed be a constant struggle, especially if you have a child with behavioral issues in school. It may lead you to think and feel as though you have failed in some way. You may feel hopeless, but it is important to keep in mind that your child is still developing. It is very likely that they can change, especially if you provide the help your child needs in a timely manner.

Through age-appropriate child counseling services available with a counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Pittsboro, NC, you can rise to the challenge by providing your child the right kind of help.  Your child can gain a better understanding and work through challenging emotions and express them in more effective ways. If you want help in building confidence in your child, don’t delay. The right fit therapist independently contracted with CCS – Pittsboro, NC can be your best strategy.  Call now to request an appointment!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Pittsboro, NC

Counties: Chatham, Alamance, Durham, Harnett, Lee, Moore, Orange, Randolph, Wake, NC
Areas: Pittsboro NC, Gulf NC, Hickory Mountain NC, Hadley NC, Siler City NC, Wilsonville NC, Fearrington NC, Mandale NC, Bear Creek NC, Albright NC
Zip Codes: 27207, 27228, 27256, 27312, 27344, 27559


Gail Gustafson, MSW, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 9+) Adolescents and Adults, Individuals, Couples and Families. PTSD/Trauma, EMDR, Adoption, Drug/Alcohol/Substance Abuse addiction, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-polar, Life Transitions, Grief and Loss, Parenting, Family, couples and marriage counseling.
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