New Years Resolutions:
What If You Focused on What is Right?

As the year comes to an end, it’s natural to start thinking about what you will resolve to do in the New Year. After all, this is where New Year’s resolutions come from don’t they? We reflect up on the past year and make a list of all the ways we could have done better. Rarely do we give ourselves credit where credit is due or thank ourselves for carrying us through another year. Life can be challenging, negative self-talk certainly doesn’t make it easier. What might it be like if we resolved to be kinder to ourselves in the upcoming year? 

The Effect of Negative Self-Talk 

The way we talk to ourselves can impact the way we feel. Self-talk is another term for our thoughts and beliefs. The way we think about ourselves and the world around us shapes a great deal of how we feel and interact with others. 

If you are constantly berating yourself it’s hard to feel good. Unfortunately, many of us do this and we get so used to this type of thinking. Perhaps you even feel that it motivates you, keeps you from being complacent and moving forward toward your goals. Many people believe this, however, the truth is that negative self-talk is extremely demotivating. If you don’t believe yourself to be capable of reaching your goals, why would you try? 

Negative self-talk not only decreases motivation but it can also lead to depression and anxiety. When we view ourselves, others and even the world around us negatively it can have wide reaching negative effects. 

Are Resolutions Negative? 

Not all New Year’s resolutions are negative. They can be a wonderful way to reflect up on the past year and set healthy goals for the next. Unfortunately, many of us use this time to cut ourselves down and list all the things we didn’t do “right” this year and resolve to do better in the next. 

This type of thinking can set the stage for feeling that we aren’t “enough” or that we aren’t doing enough. When we only focus on our shortcomings and ignore our strengths we can feel really defeated. It’s hard to feel effective when this happens. Improving your self-talk can make a world of difference, the trick is learning how. 

Counseling and Self-Talk

Improving your narratives can be difficult, therapy can help. You can focus on this when you find a therapist that is right for you. A skilled, licensed therapist can help you to explore your beliefs and self-talk. You can learn valuable Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) skills that can help you to challenge and reframe thoughts and beliefs that don’t work for you. 

CCS in Pittsboro contracts with therapists and counselors who can help. Don’t wait for things to become unmanageable before seeking treatment. Call today to schedule your first appointment and start enjoying your strengths in the New Year!